Wherever you are, be all there (20 years after Alexis)

August 26, 2019.Reading time 3 minutes.

Today is the 20th anniversary of Alexis’ death. She has been gone a long time. Thankfully, it has been long enough for us to heal, although it will never be long enough for us to forget or “get over” her. I am sure there will always be a thin veil between our various joys and […]

Mothers and Fathers of Special Needs Children

May 20, 2019.Reading time 5 minutes.

I have some dear friends who are raising an older, special needs son, and last week for Mother’s Day, the father of this special son shared with me a letter that he had written a few years earlier for the son’s mom. The son is not able to verbally express his deep love and appreciation […]

Seventeen years after Alexis Grace

January 12, 2017.Reading time 4 minutes.

If you have tuned into any of these little essays or videos of mine you’ve likely observed that Jessica and I have a daughter that died seventeen years ago. Alexis was three-and-a-half when we lost her, and we’ve thought about her every single day since. I don’t know why it’s been on my heart to […]

Amber is driving…and other emotional things!

July 9, 2015.Reading time 3 minutes.

“Ready or not…here I come!” I used to shout those words after counting to 100 (or close enough) and then charging out to find my hiding compadres, but I never thought that a game of hide-and-seek would contain my parenting mantra. “Ready or not…I’m now and forever a dad.” “Ready or not…my baby is starting […]

Loved When Unlovable

April 13, 2015.Reading time 2 minutes.

Do you know that you were loved in your most unlovable moments? Do you know that God loved you even when you couldn’t love yourself? Has the weight of that truth ever worked its way into your soul? You were loved in the exact time when you were the most difficult to love. God loved […]